Intimacy and Heart Disease: Your Emotions

Intimacy and Heart Disease: Your Emotions

Have you just learned that you have a heart problem? Or have you recently had a heart attack or heart surgery? If so, you may be concerned about your love life and whether it is safe to have sex with your heart condition. You may not even feel a desire for sex right now. These can be normal emotions after being diagnosed with a heart problem. Your doctor can give you specific instructions on when it is safe to resume sexual activity. For example, afer a heart attack or stent, it is usually safe to resume sexual activity after about one week. After open heart surgery, you may need to wait six to eight weeks. For some severe and rare heart conditions, your doctor may recommend waiting to resume sexual activity until your condition has stabilized. Your doctor can give you specific guidelines.

Doctor consulting with male patient.
I'm afraid I'll have another heart attack if I have sex.

Your feelings are normal

Many people feel afraid, depressed, angry, or sad when they have heart trouble. This is normal. You may worry that your body will never be the same. You may be afraid for the future. You may even feel angry that this happened to you. These feelings can affect your desire for sex. But with treatment for your heart condition and over time, your interest in sex will most likely return. Check with your doctor if you think your heart medications are reducing your sexual desire. For most people, having sex should not damage your heart or cause a heart attack. Talk with your doctor if you develop symptoms during sexual activity.

Overcoming negative feelings

Knowing what is troubling you is the first step toward overcoming negative feelings. Start by trying to:

  • Acknowledge what you are feeling.

  • Be patient with yourself.

  • Talk with your partner about your feelings.